Was watching Philomena on the plane to Singapore surrounded by 2 families each with 3 children under three. Let’s just say I was luck to have remembered my Seinnheisser DJ Headphones that blocked most of the noise out.

Anyway, it struck me that the relationship between children and their parents, orphans and their churches is similar to Stockholm Syndrome… Wikipedia seems all across it:

Stockholm syndrome, or capture-bonding, is a psychological phenomenon in which hostages express empathy and sympathy and have positive feelings toward their captors, sometimes to the point of defending and identifying with them. These feelings are generally considered irrational in light of the danger or risk endured by the victims, who essentially mistake a lack of abuse from their captors for an act of kindness.^[1][2] The FBI‘s Hostage Barricade Database System shows that roughly 8% of victims show evidence of Stockholm syndrome.^[3]

Stockholm syndrome can be seen as a form of traumatic bonding, which does not necessarily require a hostage scenario, but which describes “strong emotional ties that develop between two persons where one person intermittently harasses, beats, threatens, abuses, or intimidates the other.”^[4] One commonly used hypothesis to explain the effect of Stockholm syndrome is based on Freudian theory. It suggests that the bonding is the individual’s response to trauma in becoming a victim. Identifying with the aggressor is one way that the ego defends itself. When a victim believes the same values as the aggressor, they cease to be a threat.^[5]

Battered-person syndrome is an example of activating the capture-bonding psychological mechanism, as are military basic training and fraternity bonding byhazing.^{[dubious – discuss]}.^[6][7][8]

Stockholm syndrome is sometimes erroneously referred to as Helsinki syndrome.^[9][10] Helsinki syndrome is more of a case of group think and inattentional blindnessto the negative in order to achieve some perceived benefit, a reference to the non-binding Helsinki Accords that attempted to settle post WWII Cold War tensions.